True independence grows from the confidence to be ourselves, & the awareness to know who we are & what we want. Our children may be dependent on us today, but ultimately, they are going to grow up to be independent thinkers & doers. As a parent, we must support our child’s developing sense of autonomy.
Little ones seldom understand the concept of doing things on time & taking responsibility for their actions. Sometimes, the school bus power is waiting, and the child is happily sleeping despite you trying to wake him up a few times. But if this evolves into a regular occurrence then it is important to guide them in the right order to enable them to discover their independence. This will not only help them be disciplined but ready them to handle the demands of adulthood. We should encourage the child to be independent so that she/he can recognise her or his mistakes and reach out for help in cases they are not able to address by themself. The happiness & satisfaction you get when you see your children accomplish a task by themselves are fantastic.
Creating A Structure And Encouraging Discipline
It is more comfortable for children to make decisions if they think sequentially. A structured routine for what requires to be done during the day at a particular time can help the child make findings in a controlled environment. When children have a set of plans that need to be completed, then the decision of how & when to achieve them can lead them to create a routine and discipline for their day.
Allowing Them To Make Their Own Decisions
One way to relieve the child into making his/her own decisions is by determining how they would like to spend the day. Ask your children whether they choose to complete their homework first or play first. Or choosing which vegetable they would love to eat for lunch. By introducing choices & encouraging them to complete the task as decided upon, children can comprehend the significance of prioritising and decision-making.
Giving Responsibility To Develop Responsibility
To give your children a sense of responsibility, always ask them which tasks they are willing to do by themselves & assign them as their responsibility. Assign age-appropriate tasks like setting the table, watering the plants or arranging the cupboard. If you are planning a party, make a list of easy tasks you need their help with & let them take a lead on some aspects like choosing the dessert or the cutlery to be used.
Applauding The Effort
Doing something on their own for the first time is thrilling. Giving the child positive feedback when they finish a task and appreciating their action works wonders in promoting their confidence. As parents, a word of motivation or praise can strengthen the child’s confidence in his actions & guide them in the right direction.